If our lives have difficulties in our relationships and other situations, it indicates that we are tied down by habitual thought patterns. So, we must open up a better reality. First, though, we must open our minds and know that phenomena will follow. We must realize the importance of learning how to live with phenomena. A calm mind invites happiness and encourages positive interaction. The mind’s condition will manifest the corresponding phenomena. Engage your difficulties through introspection. Understand your thought process and how it generates the problems you repeatedly create.
by Zen Master Miao Tsan