Life is like farming: We harvest what we sow . It is essential to determine whether the seeds you want to plant are the right ones.
Truth is what it is. It does not require your definition. The only way to resolve your problem is to face the truth honestly, with genuine self-assessment. Explanations are thoughts used only to hide the truth.
Change is necessary if you want to make progress in life. Only when we let go of our labels and attachments will we have a more accurate perception of the truth.