Reality is reality. Reality is like your hands, which are yours alone. If your hands are rough, what can you do? You can not get rid of them. The same is true with your life. The situation is here, as is the reality. You must accept it first and then practice meditation to maintain a calm mind. As you continue to accepting reality with a calm mind and learn to use it in every aspect of daily life. Eventually, your situation and relationship will change for the better.
by Master Miao Tsan