September 3, 2012

Student: How to stay calm in hectic daily activities?

Master: When the situation comes up, one must first perceive the situation as it is. To do that, we need to have clarity and calmness of mind. We need to focus on what the problem really is. If we don’t pay attention to the core message of a situation, we will generate a lot of emotions. The existing problem is a problem already. We need a hundred percent of our energy and focus in order to handle it. A single problem can easily be handled when we give it our full concentration. However, if we create a lot of emotions based on that one problem, it means we layer more problems on top of it. To do so only uses more time and energy. Worries and emotions rob a person of energy, and they consume effort. Instead, we need to figure out what the essence of the problem is and what we need to do in order to handle it. Look into the core of this problem, and you will see that we habitually over-react. Why do we generate so many emotions? Why do we have so many worries? It is because we want to handle the situation correctly and get rid of the situation. One way or another, our handling of the situation only makes it worse. So, the situation gets more serious because we constantly over-react to things. Sometimes in our family, we will create a huge conflict from just a small conflict if we become too emotional. For example,  a couple has a little argument, but then they start to generate lots of emotions, and soon a tiny thing can generate a lot of misery. It is because we can never see what the true problem is. The reality is simple, but emotions are complicated. Focus on what is really happening right now. Do not think.